How Do You Overcome Feeling Defeated When Job Offers Aren’t Knocking Down the Door?

Days and nights can seem really long when you are looking for work and nothing appears. As the day winds down with a feeling that little has been accomplished, it can affect the nights. Sleep can be troubled, come and go, or avoid you all together. All this can leave you feeling helpless and frustrated.

And when this goes on for a period of time, with all of the consequences that accompany it like believing that no one wants you or wondering what you aren’t doing, it can leave you feeling defeated. And the next struggle is how to motivate yourself to keep looking for that seemingly ever elusive job.

For this, here are five things to consider:

First, keep moving. Even if your pace has slowed, every time you move, you are in a different place. It is the most basic thing we can do and it could eventually create the changes you are wanting.

Second, as you move, consider that tomorrow, your job could appear. And if you don’t look for it, you may miss it. It’s hard sometimes to believe that anything is out there for you. But as long as you are looking, the possibility persists.

Third, take care of yourself. You need to be in the best condition you can be in for the interview and ultimately the job acceptance. But first you have to be in a good frame of mind and healthy body so as to fill out the application and put in that resume. You can do this by taking care of yourself. Exercise. Drink a lot of water. Take breaks. Get back to it. Balance.

Sometimes, we conclude that it’s better to cram hours into the day doing nothing but looking for work. If you were to do this in the workplace – work without breaks, what happens? You burn out or you lose focus or you get tried and can’t concentrate. Looking for a job is a job in itself. It just doesn’t pay as well. But it can pay off. You just have to stay with it. And you have to take care of yourself.

Fourth, consider if you have expended your search parameters wide enough or if they are too small. Are you considering all of your skills? Are there some jobs that you aren’t applying for that you could be or would be interested in trying for?

Fifth, talk to people. There are support groups, therapists, and others. Get out with friends and spend quality time with family. Just try not to bombard them all of the time with the job-seeking woes. Remember balance? It applies when you are out with friends and family, too. Otherwise, you could alienate them and feel more alone.

It’s okay to have fun while you are unemployed. If you had a job, you’d be having fun in your off hours. We aren’t intended to always be down on ourselves, to always worry, and to always feel defeated. After a while, we may find it harder to get out of that mood. And that won’t bode well for a job interview.

Because attitude plays such a large role in the whole job search and living-life process, it’s a useful tool. The more you can keep your attitude fluid, open, and willing to move, the better chance you have of reaching your ultimate objective of finding that job!

E.J. Frank is an author, speaker, NLP practitioner, freelance writer, and career coach. She has written several books and ebooks on career and communication topics. Find her at Facebook at Move on with your life and on the web a thttp://www.nontraditionalwomenatwork.com/moveonwithyourlife.html

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